Timeless

Some things pass through our lives. With purpose to be found later. Some feelings teach us what we are. As well as things we did not know. Not always what we care to. They run their course. Leave their mark. Become memories. We become a memory. It fades. We fade as we serve no further purpose for someone. Life paths diverge into others. Repetition of that making it clear what we can hold on to. What little we’re allowed. Not always what we should.

I find it hard to bear the truth that we, ourselves, are never timeless to another. Behind the face we know, changes occur. Process takes place. Growth of emotional intelligence. Needs pulled from the air of life experience. Suddenly important. Suddenly detrimental. Progress. Falling back. All new. Keeping up. Changes. It seems a battle that can’t be won. To remain in someone’s heart forever. To be promised that. To never be promised that. Repetition.

At those same hands, what is needed and desired of you will always be changing, as well. Always. Never slowing. Never predictable. No clear paths leading in or out. Minute by minute breakdowns and categorization of exchange between two people who can’t make themselves clear. Who sometimes can. What’s promised and what is not. It makes all of it seem a little more just. A little more fair, the uncertainty of that other side. A little. Repeat, repeat. This is how we learn.

I don’t wonder anymore if timelessness is merely a state of mind. I know it. I’ve also learned that it isn’t a Promise. It’s a Happening. A true destination. One to be looked back upon. Not looked impossibly forward to. While there are some things I wish I did not know, I know now what Timeless is to me. That’s when I fall without regret. And forgive without question. That’s where I’m a better man for the experience. That’s where I keep my own pleasant memories as well as hopes now passed and gone. That’s where I hold all those soft sounds, words and feelings for myself. For all time.

Forever. The ultimate repetition. Life’s greatest learning opportunity. That is how we learn. But what can we keep forever. Some things are purely a challenge. Some are impossible. Gone in the night for one. Timeless to another. So, go ahead and define that. If you can.

I’ll wait.

Sam

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19 thoughts on “Timeless

  1. Hmms Idk about this one Sam. Maybe I’m being a little naïve in thinking that its the growth within oneself that can make things timeless. Growing together, sometimes in different directions but still *together* can make things stronger and long-lasting. I do think that communication plays a huge part it keeping it working though.

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    1. Together yes. Of course. That is the goal. Growth together. But not when someone decides to leave *because* of change and seeks another horizon. No one can promise their forever is what it breaks down to. So I’ll hold on to what I can.

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      1. Ahh yeah…that does make sense

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  2. Some relationships are for a season or a reason, that once complete, means the relationship ends too. ‘Tis a complex thing. People also grow apart, as well as closer

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    1. Ah…yes, exactly. 😔 It all serves a purpose. I’ve learned to be grateful for all the moments, even after my chance is long passed.

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  3. “I find it hard to bear the truth that we, ourselves, are never timeless to another. Behind the face we know, changes occur. Process takes place. Growth of emotional intelligence. Needs pulled from the air of life experience. Suddenly important. Suddenly detrimental. Progress. Falling back. All new. Keeping up. Changes. It seems a battle that can’t be won. To remain in someone’s heart forever. To be promised that. To never be promised that.”

    I’ve emotionally outgrown partners. When one person is the type that embraces change and even, to a point, craves it, and the other just wants to cling to what they “know”, frightened to plunge into unfamiliar territory…..it seems doomed to fail every time.

    But I heard something this week…about promises.
    When we make a promise to someone, it gives them hope. That’s why it hurts so much when promises are broken. It’s not just a breaking if trust, but a destruction of hope. And hope can be very fragile for some of us. And I think we have to hold that close to us whenever we make commitments to another – be it friendship, romantic, whatever. We often hold someone else’s hope in our hands. They hold ours too – which makes me want to reinforce my walls that much more.

    Ugh, sorry for the long comment. Glad you’re back!

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    1. No I like long comments! Especially from people who aren’t assholes 😂😂😂 which, yes, I literally *had* to say…

      And I think that’s the thing some people don’t understand, and the thing I try to be sensitive to with others. The hope. When that’s gone your mind becomes chaotic with invention because that’s all that’s left. There were some pretty nasty things presumed about me when I was hurting…in reality, it was me watching that hope obliterated. Which I can’t apologize for, or feel embarrassed about. Truth is, if my hurt and loss of hope painted such an ugly picture, it wouldn’t have worked anyhow. Which is also something that’s hard to live with.

      I think giving someone genuine hope is admirable. Problem is we never know if it’s genuine. And even if it is, there are simply promises we just can’t make. To do that is a prediction with far too many variables in this life. It’s no wonder there are so many people scared to expose their hearts. I’m not one of those people but I can definitely respect those who are.

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      1. Giving that hope is the only meaningful way to love, but it’s destined to take a beating. I guess it all comes down to how much a heart can stand.

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  4. Oooh my god.. sam..
    You put into words what I couldn’t explain but absolutely and totally agree with every single sentence of this post..
    You definitely do have a way with words.. and you know exactly how to express and explain and define circumstances to a tee….
    I love what you have to say..
    And how you say it…

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    1. Thank you so much! I always know that you will understand! 🤗🤗🤗

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      1. You make so easy to be understand..

        I so wish I have your knack with words..

        I always find it so difficult to put into words what I really want to say and to explain it to be understood

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        1. I think we all feel like that to a degree when our emotions run so deep…that’s why the friends who *get* you are so priceless! I’ve been very grateful for you standing by me this past year! 😊

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          1. Awww.. you sweet man..
            You awesome writing ✍️ is what got me stuck..
            You really do have a great way of expressing and saying things..

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            1. So lovely of you 🤗 Thank you!!

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  5. The broken places in our hearts are where light comes in to heal us. We expand when the light breaks through and we heal. We connect with those people who get it and who have walked the path of brokenness. We bond with people for different reasons. I realize now that if I hadn’t had my heart so broken, I would have never found myself again. So there’s a light that shines even in the darkest hours. You are such a sweet, kind man Sam. I love this post because you have such an easy way of writing from the heart. Thanks for being you.

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    1. And that is all very, very true. Those dark times are when we learn who we are and what we can handle…along with so much else. Its just a matter of learning to be grateful for the lessons that didn’t feel very good! 😊😊😊 Thank you for being YOU! I’m glad that you are here!!! 🤗

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  6. I love your writing, how you express things that completely resonate with me but that I could never explain with mere words … yet somehow you do. Amazing! 💕

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    1. This is so special of you to say, because I know the people who are truly going to understand my thoughts, do. Honestly it’s often a struggle to feel like I’m being heard! So, thank you so much!! 🤗

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