Still Pleasant After All These Years!

For the last few years, I’ve been out of town at this time when my youngest daughter’s teacher assignment is released out into the universe (my mailbox). I have friends send us a picture ‘reveal’ of the letter slash news. Good or bad as it may be. Thankfully, it’s always been good. Anyone see where I’m going with this?

When we first started at this public school, I was beside myself thinking I’d botched the decision to pull my child out of the Christian Montessori school she was so rooted in. Which I’d done sort of knee jerk. After we’d paid to secure our spot for the following year, they dropped a bomb that the entire staff was getting an overhaul. When the majority of a staff, including administration, decides to head for greener pastures in concert with one another, it is a sign there is trouble brewin’. As a teacher and a parent, this screams for me to run. Either way, the families would no longer be recieving what they’d been promised, as well as more than they bargained for with buildouts that would take place during the schoolyear with our tiny children in spitting distance. Long story short, they did *not* want to refund the money they took from everyone mere days before giving out the bad news…comedy ensued.

So…the next step was to test in for public. We went over to the school, which we’d registered for and toured the previous week, all was well. We forged ahead. She has an awkward birthday where, coming from a mixed aged, two-room school, her grade placement could have gone one of two ways. So my child took her tests, and when she was done…I met my first teacher at the school. Right off the bat, she seemed delightfully annoyed that I had questions about grade placement. And was charmingly over the difficulties of my hearing loss before we even got rolling. There were a lot of long pauses, closed eyes and visible deep calming breaths in order for her to exist in my airspace without climbing a clock tower after I left her sight. She ‘just couldn’t’ with me, and made it clear. There was no patience for my many misunderstandings of her, and I had to fill in a lot of blanks of things she would not repeat for me. As my first experience at this new school, it left me wondering how different things would be were I not as soft spoken. I’ve noticed with parents, and general adultdom, it’s always the obnoxious ones that seem to garner the most respect. Disheartening to say the least.

I walked away hoping this would never be my child’s teacher. And when she eventually switched up to teach a grade higher, I re-hoped. We have always managed to dodge the bullet.

Guess who we just got for second grade!?

But, that’s okay…I’ve got my super cool new snowy mountain rescue emergency backpack ready for MY first day. And the kittycat donut-nana will be close behind.


21 thoughts on “Still Pleasant After All These Years!

  1. One part of me says, “ohhhh nooooo” But the positive me says, “It will all work out.” I am the same kind of parent – in that – I am soft spoken. Fingers crossed for a great year ahead!

    1. Thank you so much. I am hoping for the best and at the very LEAST that they work out a communication with one another. She wasn’t having any of me years ago so I don’t think time has probably improved that!

  2. This scares the shit out of me but I have to say….this reads really calm. Good for you and your bravery! I’d be going crazy trying to make changes but convincing myself to at least wait to see what happens. Usually things work out way better than I expect but in the cases that don’t, I make myself known early on and allow myself to be fully involved in as many volunteer activities I can possibly do.

    Good luck! Maybe she’ll be an unexpected good match for your daughter 🙂!

    1. I’m hoping, hoping that maybe it’s the change she needs. I will just proceed as I have previous years there and offer my help and I suppose keep my questions to myself. We’ll see, maybe she’s changed a little having been there a while. Or at least now knows I tend to be involved and not just lurking in my child’s background.

  3. Oh joy of joys! 🙄 here’s hoping that barrel of whoopass is able to remain safely stashed in a corner.

    1. I know! She wasn’t placed with her toxic buddy this year at my personal pleading so that is the first step to a fresh start. I’m sure it will…her tactic was to put me in my place because she saw me struggling and knew she could. Which I’m well used to by now, I just haven’t had to do it with other teachers.

      1. And, sometimes the people I think I’m going to REALLY dislike upon first meeting them end up becoming people I’m quite close to. So, you never know.

  4. Fingers crossed all goes well x

    1. Thank you! I’m going in with a good attitude and my daughter has no clue of my secret hoping that she’d never get this lady so as far as she knows, it’s just a new year!

      1. You’re such a good dad x

  5. Praying for a good year.

    1. We only just found out. It’s quite a blow.

      1. They will only replace her with the very best! 🙏

        1. It needs to be VERY soon so I can only hope this was the plan all summer and not the “surprise” it was presented as.

  6. So sorry that your experience has been so difficult. As a teacher I focused on making the experience successful for both my student and their parents. But I know there are too many that do not. I’ve fought for years to improve the education experience in my area. I hope your year is not a reflection of how it began.

    1. Thank you so much. I’m hoping that it was just a bad day or possibly she was on guard because we were coming from private at the time. I just took her as very impatient and intolerant that I was struggling to communicate with her and it didn’t give me good signals for how she might be with young kids😣 Thankfully that interaction was three years ago and we’ve never had even a slightly offputting experience or situation otherwise! Im actually looking forward to open house on the 29th so her and I can give it another go since I’m sure she has ZERO memory of that day 😂😂😂 I’ve taught children and embraced families from grade school through college level and there would be no success for anyone if that sort of impatience, for myself or them, was very far reaching!! My daughter seems unfazed by the notion of this gal so far and she knows her way better than I do at this point so…forward marching into the year with a clean slate (at least that’s what I am telling myself!)

  7. I wish you both the best school year ever! Deep breath…all will be ok, xo

    1. Thank you so much 🤗🤗🤗 I’ve got more to do still than hours in a day buuuuuut……still!

      1. You’ll get it all done in plenty of time. I believe in you Sam! 🙂

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