Beyond the Fork in the Road

We all want a place to be loved and cared for. You won’t make sense to everyone. You won’t be needed by everyone. You will not be understood by everyone.

If you are working to fit where you are unwanted, those are not your people. If you are begging for kindness, those are not your people. If you are made to feel sad and worse about yourself every time, those are not your people.

You will not be heard by everyone. For what you are or where you are. Don’t lose sight of the places you don’t have to battle to fit, or hurt in a mere hope of being accepted or cared for. Cherish who and what has chosen your life without a fight. An environment to learn, and grow positive energy. Don’t lose sight of all your good that laid quietly among the toxicity. It’s taken a backseat far too long.

We all want the same things…I suppose we are all just headed there on different roads of our choosing. You will only hear and be heard on your own. That’s how you know you are headed the right way.

You are more than White Noise. And everything’s going to be okay.

Sam

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14 thoughts on “Beyond the Fork in the Road

    1. Thank you so much! 🤗🤗🤗

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  1. This is important. We spend so much time trying to fit in with or please people who were never going to accept us because they are not our people. You are right. Thanks for this good reminder.

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    1. That’s an important point…that they were *never* going to be accepting. It looks different at times and has differing timelines, but those things are in place from the very beginning. It takes time to realize that something was never a reality. It is instinctual to fight for your place in life…but if someone is behind a brick wall, there is a reason and it is no one for you. We can not sacrifice ourselves to get through where we were never wanted. Sounds dreary, but is definitely all a positive to realize. Thank you so much, my friend! 🤗

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  2. Amen. I am fINALLY getting this. It started with accepting me first. Funny how when I’m kinder to myself I don’t put up with as much crap from others.

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    1. I think one begets the other, too. As we learn our boundaries for poor treatment, we can enjoy ourselves more!

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  3. We need to find our tribes. They do not always come in the form of blood, and that is more than okay. Sometimes the very ones that hear us, are the people we did not share a womb with or a last name. I enjoyed this post.

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    1. Thank you, dahlin! This is definitely true of blood family as well. I have about four family members who I am stuck like glue with and they all come from the same house. Anyone else seems like a stranger these days. My mom used to say that the illusion of family was just that. We would look back on me and my brother growing up and how full and happy everything seemed. It’s hard to accept when everyone falls away from one another later in lifen but we have to save ourselves and our kids too.

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      1. You are welcome!🤗
        When we look back, I believe we realize how we pretty much had no say so in who we had to be around, in family. I haven’t seen some of my family since High School, and I was not fond of them, then. I *knew I would not know them beyond that point. You let time pass and hope people have changed, then you realize, they are even more toxic than before….and you know they would not be people you’d want around yourself or your babies. That is completely me. My son will never know some family. We will keep it that way. Then there are those he has yet to meet…..maybe.

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        1. I feel like my family started to break down when my grandpa died on my dads side. It was like EVeryone crawled out of their old skin and into a new one! It was hard to let go of that old picture in my head. I still wonder if they changed…or I just grew up and they had always been that way. The standards have changed since the 80’s. If anything happened to my kids that happened to us as far as treatment, I would be on the warpath.

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          1. The same thing happened when my Grandmother passed away. A lot of family depended on her prayers and advice, but did not learn to hold themselves up. So some family deteriorated rapidly. I learned a long time ago, it is perfectly okay to be selective of the family members that I allow in my child’s life. As he gets older, he can change that if he would like….but not before learning some necessary wisdom.

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            1. I wish I could say my grandparents led us spiritually and that was why we later fell apart…they were more of an iron fist and I think my grandma kept everyone in line on *down* the line. When my grampa died…I don’t know. It was the beginning of a new era, I think. Like we were all released somehow…it changed everyone without that family model to rely on and fit in to. The time always comes though for our kids, ans us, where they can pick and choose as those roles fluctuate. The natural order!

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  4. Thanks for the encouragement Sam.

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    1. You’re very welcome! 🤗🤗🤗

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